When Lueza died, the Headmaster of my former school sent this to my father and we included it in the readings at Lu's service.
"Nothing can fill the gap when we are away from those we love, and it would be wrong to try and find anything. We must simply hold out and win through. That sounds very hard at first, but at the same time, it is a great consolation, since leaving the gap unfilled preserves the bonds between us. It is nonsense to say that God fills the gap; he does not fill it, but keeps it empty so that our communion with another may be kept alive, even at the cost of pain."
~Dietrich Bonhoeffer 1906-1945. Lutheran pastor and member of German resistance against Hitler~